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To all of you that don’t want to be an evangelical/fundamentalist robot, or to those of you who once were,

I thought that I was being righteous, holy, set apart.  I thought I was being moral and obedient to a God whose ways were above my ways.  Despite that gut pull that always made me feel uncomfortable when I was “telling the truth in love,” I continued on.  I was told that discomfort was normal.  It was simply my flesh, which must be ignored until conquered. 

And when I finally heard a truth that made sense to that gut pull and my brain, it broke my heart.

 How many times did I “lovingly share the truth” with a friend or a stranger because I believed all the authority figures in my life when they said I was planting a seed that I may never see grow, when in reality I was probably pushing them one more step back from God.  How could the consequences of my actions turn out to be so opposite of what I thought they were?

Why did I feel so brainwashed?  I’d been taught to ignore, ignore, ignore.  “The heart is deceitful above all things.”  “If it makes you uncomfortable, it’s a good thing.”  “If you really loved people, you would take every opportunity to share the gospel.” Ignore your gut, Kate.  Ignore the part of you, deep down, that knows all these things are beautiful truths twisted into something ugly – something fueled by fear and the need for control.

Yes, the heart is deceitful: we are not what we feel.  But I am a unique individual whose feelings are not flesh temptations to be conquered.

Being outside of your comfort zone can be the best place to be sometimes: there, we can grow and conquer fears and accomplish things beyond ourselves.  But I am not disobedient when I act out a nudge from God in a way that uses my personal strengths and attributes.  There’s a reason you usually feel comfortable vs uncomfortable when you do something in a way that comes more naturally to you.

Taking the time to actually be a part of someone’s life and sharing the message of Christ when it’s welcome can be healing and life-changing.  But ignoring the context, timing, and personal intricacies of another person’s situation in order to keep your checklist driven conscience clear does not bring the Kingdom of God to earth.

Guess what? Everyone is not called to ministry and those not in it are not second-class Christians.  Believe it or not, the weight of the world’s salvation is not on your shoulders.  Jesus already did that.  If you don’t go to that third world country and tell the good news, those people are not damned to Hell because of your unwillingness/inability to go.  As C.S. Lewis put it, “We do know that no man can be saved except through Christ; we do not know that only those who know Him can be saved through Him.”

Don’t ignore God, and don’t ignore your gut, because sometimes they’re the same thing.

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We talk about “biblical families,” “biblical marriage,” “biblical economics,” “biblical politics,” “biblical values,” “biblical stewardship,” “biblical voting,” “biblical manhood,” “biblical womanhood,” even “biblical dating” to create the impression that the Bible has just one thing to say on each of these topics - that it offers a single prescriptive formula for how people of faith ought to respond to them.

But the Bible is not a position paper. The Bible is an ancient collection of letters, laws, poetry, proverbs, histories, prophecies, philosophy and stories spanning multiple genres and assembled over thousands of years in cultures very different from our own.

When we turn the Bible into an adjective and stick it in front of another loaded word, we tend to ignore or downplay the parts of the Bible that don’t quite fit our preferences and presuppositions. In an attempt to simplify, we force the Bible’s cacophony of voices into a single tone and turn a complicated, beautiful, and diverse holy text into a list of bullet points we can put in a manifesto or creed. More often than not, we end up more committed to what we want the Bible to say than what it actually says.

Rachel Held Evans, “The danger of calling behavior ‘biblical’” (via dandelionbreaks)

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